You’re going through the most challenging situation you’ve faced in your career. Morale is low. Revenue is missing projections. Your team, your organization is depending on you. What do you do? It’s painful. Sometimes it’s not fair – it’s not your fault. The team has not been resourced properly. Certain team members aren’t pulling their weight. You have to do something!
I’ve learned that a dream is only as valuable as the plan for accomplishing it. And I’ve learned that the dream of healthy, deepening relationships with my God, my wife, and my children is of far greater importance. I’ve learned that, even as the odds were stacked against me, God was shaping me and my ministry style. And I’ve learned that the end result of this chapter of my life does not invalidate who I have become and what I have come to value as a leader and pastor.
People had been hinting at the possibility I’d made a mistake almost since I’d moved to Indy. Friends, family members, people who had my best intentions at heart, asked questions as a means of expressing misgivings about my situation. And then they voted with their wallets: when I sent out a letter asking for support from the churches I had grown up in, with leaders who had known me since I was a child, only one church responded with a one-time gift. Included on the list of churches who did not even respond to my letter was the church pastored by my father.
Negative tension is a strain on a team, but positive tension will stretch a team. The object is to rid a team of negative tension and foster an environment for positive tension. How is that done? The leader must immediately deal with the negative and never allow it to grow. I call this process the Barney Fife model, “Nip it in the bud.”
When I think about that building, I laugh just to keep from crying. The boarded window spaces were only accentuated by the peeling paint on the outside, and mold was growing on the walls of the nursery inside. I distinctly remember arriving one Sunday morning to find that a raccoon urine had soaked through the dropped ceiling and formed a puddle directly on top of my hymnal.
Tension on a team can be fatal. Teams are made of team members who are diverse to say the least. They all have different temperaments and personalities. Using the certain personal assessment tools overview of the diversity a team can have. Personal Coaching and team development allows you to go to deeper levels. You learn your strengths, stresses, and passions.